November 10, 2026
A Setback Is a Setup for a Comeback | Episode 257: Becky Fields Wilson
with Becky Fields Wilson, Director of Private Banking, MidFirst Bank; Founder of Positive on Purpose
45 min
A Setback Is a Setup for a Comeback | Episode 257: Becky Fields Wilson
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In this episode I sit down with Becky Fields Wilson — director of private banking at MidFirst Bank, a leadership and mindset speaker, and the founder of Positive on Purpose. Becky is one of those women who looks like she has it all together, and she does, but she's also honest about the hard days. Fourteen years into her banking career she was president of the bank when she was let go — the week before Christmas, as a single mom. The line that carried her came from her dad: a setback is a setup for a comeback.
We talk about why she named her business Positive on Purpose (the guys in banking used to call her "Pollyanna Becky," and they didn't mean it as a compliment), what it looked like to stop compartmentalizing her faith at work, and how a simple gratitude list helped her fall back in love with banking and find her real purpose: to lead, coach and inspire women to be all that God created them to be.
Then we get to the honest part. This spring Becky crossed three five-year goals off her vision board — and instead of celebrating, she hit burnout for the first time in her career. She put down her "battle board," stepped off social media, and started leaving voice memos for the people she'd been missing. I love that. We talk about seasons — when to persevere and when to lay something down — and what it means to stop resisting the new version of yourself. If you're a high achiever wondering why the finish line didn't feel like you expected, this one's for you. Keep going.
Key takeaways
- Your circumstances don't shape your future — your thoughts about them do. Becky was fired (a fact), but what she chose to think next is what determined her comeback.
- Faith first, family second, career third only works if you actually practice it. Becky believed the words for years before she let them change how she showed up at work.
- Whatever you focus on grows. When Becky focused on everything wrong with banking, it got bigger; a gratitude list helped her fall back in love with the career she almost left.
- Your career is not meant to fill your whole cup. Expecting one job to meet all your wants and needs leaves the rest of your life running dry — and a fuller life can make you better at work, not worse.
- Everyone has a purpose no matter their seat on the org chart. You don't have to leave your job to live your purpose; sometimes you bring your light right where you are.
- Crossing goals off the vision board can lead to burnout, not celebration. Becky learned to put down the 'battle board,' stop tracking everything, and listen to her body and to God.
- Real connection beats shallow connection. Stepping off social media reminded Becky how much she missed real people — so she started sending voice memos and checking in for real.
- Sometimes growth means laying something down. Stop resisting the new version of yourself and get curious about what this season is for.
Chapters
- 0:00Coming up
- 0:33Sharing Passion and Purpose
- 0:50Welcome: meet Becky Fields Wilson
- 1:3325 years in banking and the feminine side of leadership
- 4:50President of the bank, then let go
- 7:49A setback is a setup for a comeback
- 8:06Our thoughts shape our future, not the circumstances
- 9:01Faith first, family second, career third
- 11:28Why the business is called Positive on Purpose
- 16:52Everyone has a purpose, no matter your seat on the org chart
- 17:21A word from our sponsor
- 18:23Building a life with intention: the bank and the business
- 20:09Whatever you focus on grows
- 21:51Her purpose: lead, coach, and inspire women
- 22:37Your career is not meant to fill your whole cup
- 25:10Seasons: when to persevere and when to lay it down
- 28:33Crossing off the vision board, then burnout
- 32:04Putting the battle board down
- 34:14Off social media since March: missing real people
- 36:31Looking at 2027: becoming the new version of yourself
- 38:54Rapid fire
- 41:44What following your passion means
- 42:17A question from the last guest: who saw it in you first?
- 44:41Sharing Passion and Purpose outro
“A setback is a setup for a comeback.”
“Our thoughts shape our future, not the circumstances.”
“Whatever you focus on grows.”
“You're resisting becoming the new version of yourself.”
Resources mentioned
About Becky
Director of Private Banking, MidFirst Bank; Founder of Positive on Purpose
Becky Fields Wilson is the director of private banking at MidFirst Bank and a leadership and mindset speaker, with more than 25 years in banking and a background in commercial lending. Ten years ago she founded Positive on Purpose, her speaking, coaching and mastermind business, to lead, coach and inspire women in business. Her guiding line comes from her dad: a setback is a setup for a comeback.
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